We are all aware and we all experience also that close knit family relationships are a constant source of happiness and love. But these relationships, many a times, also possess the capacity of bringing along with this love and joy, many different negative shades of possessiveness and domination, and complexes and dependencies. These are widespread ailments existing in our family relationships today, but which can be cured. Studying/implementing the Higher Values of Life & Meditation on our Higher Self is a very positive healing process which can cure the causes of these ailments, which exist inside the human mind. Once the causes are cured through right understanding & meditation, relationships become extremely healthy, which provide the self from others and from the self to others, only and only positivity energy, in the form of positive and empowering thoughts, feelings, words and actions.
A common sign of these diseases is lack of respect for people close to us. As a result of an un-respectful consciousness and attitude, we sometimes behave with our nearest and dearest ones, like maybe our spouse or children or siblings (brothers or sisters) or parents, in such an offensive manner which we normally never and would not ever even think of showing towards people with whom we are not very close. It’s not just a question of mannerisms, but of inner respect for the other. So often in families, a particular fixed order in relationships, positions of higher and lower, positions of senior and junior, become established, leading to feelings of superiority and inferiority, the effects of which start penetrating in the relationships e.g. the mother-in-law is very dominating and takes it for granted that she will be listened to by the son and daughter-in-law. Or an older brother or sister orders around a younger sibling, not giving him/her enough space in which to speak his or her own mind and express himself/herself, leading to an inferiority complex in the younger sibling. Or a wife is extremely possessive of the husband, not giving him enough personal freedom. Once established, these behaviors become permanent sanskaras/habbits and tend to be carried with us through life, so that even when we have left the original family relationships and circumstances in which these behaviors existed, we bring the same personality traits into our new relationships and circumstances.
Now let us explain how right understanding and awareness can cure these ailments of possessiveness and complexes existing in our family relationships today with much ease:
As I practice the higher understanding and awareness of life, which is nothing but a practical exercise of awaring and experiencing Soul consciousness, I carry that experience into my relationships. While interacting with each one of my closest of relations, I start becoming aware of myself as an eternal Soul, an actor on the unlimited stage of the world, playing my act through the physical body costume and I see each one with the same Consciousness. Also the realization grows that the role I am playing with others now is only one small part of the whole painting of life. I don’t know where I was, in which part of the painting and with whom, before I took this birth, nor where I will be afterwards. The same is true for those with whom I am close. Depending on the type of relationship, I do have a particular responsibility towards each one of them whilst we are playing our parts together, but this only lasts a short time within this eternal timeline e.g. as father and child, each has a particular role today, but who knows about yesterday or tomorrow?
Our focus of attention is ever upon our body, mind and intellect, our perception and action, emotion and thought. Thereby we experience heterogeneity, diversity in the world. That causes friction, frustration. People become adversaries to combat with. Our mind remains agitated. To find harmony therefore we shift our focus of attention to our Higher Self, the spiritual Core of beings. We will recognise a homogeneity everywhere. Our mind turns peaceful and happy.
In our ignorance we see the beings of the world as different, opposed to us. We develop animosity, bitterness, hatred towards the world. And suffer mental strain and stress. We must therefore learn to recognise our own Self reflected everywhere. The Soul that enlivens our material equipments is the same that enlivens all other beings. Thus do we develop an attitude of friendship, harmony and love towards the world at large. A feeling of oneness with all beings.
In meditation, I stabilize in the consciousness that I am an Eternal Soul, and that all beings are also the same Soul, members of a huge spiritual family. Roles will change, but as the One Homogeneous Mass of Pure Consciousness, we only have an unlimited spiritual relation. we are but that One Loveful & Blissful Conciousness, but have no other permanent physical relation. Becoming aware of this spiritual wisdom protects me against limited feelings of ‘my’ mother, ‘my’ husband, ‘my’ sister, ‘my’ wife, ‘my’ son / daughter and so on, where such feelings cause possessiveness and a desire to control, rather than pure spiritual love filled with equality. All problems are reduced in relationships, when the personality trait inside me that tries to control others, or is controlled by others, is removed. Both of these are negative behaviors, caused due to lack of inner security, not true responsibility or concern. By knowing myself as the Supreme Self, my self-respect returns and by seeing others in the same light, my respect for others returns. From this strong Soul-conscious spectator point, there is an inner detachment (but not a lack of love) inside me and I’ll no longer feel a need to manipulate others or be manipulated by the other, but instead I will radiate pure feelings of genuine love, care and respect into my relationships. This causes the same energy to come back to me from my relationships.
DISCOVER & AWARE THY REAL HIGHER SELF-THY TRUE IDENTITY-THE SUPREME INDIVISIBLE ABSOLUTE LOVEFUL & BLISSFUL PURE CONSCIOUSNESS…!!!
DARE TO BE DIVINE!!!